It seems like many people nowadays are willing to share that they’re “having a panic attack”, from reality TV moments (Ari on the Bachelor and most of the Kardashians at some point), to media personalities (Dan Harris on GMA or Carson Daly sharing with People magazine) and athletes (thank you Kevin Love). Which is great. Helping to reduce the stigma of mental health challenges is a critical part in boosting our ability to provide more people the quality help they need.
Seasonal stress is hotter than ever this year, with more people reporting symptoms of fatigue, burnout and depression. So, if you’re feeling blue or out of sorts, you’re not alone. According to polls from the American Psychological Association, the most commonly used terms to describe negative emotions during the holiday include fatigue (68%), stress (61%), irritability (52%), sadness (36%), anger (35%), and loneliness (26%).
Look up the term “mental health”, and you’ll likely find definitions that refer to emotional, psychological and social wellbeing. Which of course is true, but it’s only part of the story. When we fail to include the brain — the physical structure responsible for what we think, feel and do — we limit our ability to integrate mind-body health effectively.
Challenges with mental health continue to increase as our brains receive messages of insufficient funds across multiple dimensions. Simply put, the brain’s primary responsibility is to sustain an energy balance that ensures safety and survival. When we think or feel that we do not have enough –whether it be time, energy, social support or other internal and external resources -the brain will shift us into conservation mode, which over time can wear us out or break us down.
Although the weather may still be dreary, the calendar suggests that spring is right around the corner. What better time to clear up the elements of your life that contribute to a sense of stress. Remember, stress is not good or bad – it’s just a feeling you get when demands are greater than capacity. Even the concepts of eustress (good) and distress (bad) do little to help us truly understand the stress dynamic, as we’ve all experienced something positive leading to overwhelm if we’re not fully prepared or something negative bringing about glorious growth and change when we have what it takes to effectively adapt.
Change is in the air, and regardless of your political position you are likely going to feel the impact of change today. We know that change is constant, and yet certain moments bring about a visceral sensation that tides are turning, a new ship has sailed. Today is one of those days.
Watching the process of change unfold in the upcoming transition of power in our country I became deeply emotional, recognizing the impact of what’s happening in this moment in time
Let me start by saying how grateful I am for the time we’ve spent together. You’ve been there to pick me up more often than I can remember. So many mornings when I wanted to stay in bed to rest, you reminded me that I didn’t have a moment to waste. “Live life to the fullest.” “You only live once.” “You can rest when you’re in the ground.” The jolt of energy I needed to get out there and make my mark on the world. To reach for the stars. To strive to be more, and do more, and have more.
Holiday stress happens primarily because of unrealistic expectations, feeling overwhelmed or out of control, and losing site of what matters most to us. The good news is that stress can be like an internal GPS, shining light on course corrections to get us back on track. Stress is not good or bad, but rather a sense we have when something is not as it should be. We only feel stress when something that matters to us is at stake, so it turns out that stressing can be one of our greatest blessings if we take time to pay attention and adjust.
Try to define stress and you might find yourself quickly in its grasp. Even the concept of stress has had a stressful ride; when it was first coined by Hans Selye as the “non-specific response of the body to any demand for change”, Selye himself had no idea the rapid rise and fall his newborn term would experience, later suggesting that had he been more clear in his description he might be known as the godfather of “strain” instead.
Faced with the most difficult of decisions, Kathy and Brian Usher relied on deep faith as they waited outside the operating room for over 12 hours while Dr. Ben Carson removed half of their daughter’s brain. In the years of struggle leading up to this moment, Beth Usher would experience over a hundred seizures each day as her brain was being torn apart by a disease called Rasmussen's encephalitis.